I wasn't wrong, before. I was meant to be here, but I think it's to fight what I didn't fight before, to fix what was always wrong. To succeed in breaking the blockade. THIS is the effing barrier, it was since childhood. The real problem I've always had is staring at me in the face. No more guesswork required. It's so obviously Psych 101 that it's embarrassing. Now is my time to finally fight it and win against it. There is no other choice, and I am not failing. Not this time.
There are some people who cannot bear a party of pleasure.
So, just be selfish and happy, then. As long as you keep it to yourself and not involve or include anyone else, it hurts no one and why not choose to be alone? People are so disappointing and fail you, eventually making you miserable, why even bother with 'em. I've observed enough to know that the selfish ones are the happiest. . . somehow.
Blaming the victim is what sociopaths do to theirs.
You can do it, but you'll come off like every other guy who does this, and the message translates the same to "hi, I'm shallow and superficial and like you for your looks first and foremost". It'd be better to either find something different to compliment (something that is her doing and choice and reflects her personality), or just don't bother.