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I'm pretty sure my parents think I'm going to end up a failure.

My sister and brother are both alcoholics, drug addicts, and my brother is still doing drugs..jumping couch to couch..doing the same crap..no job..stealing and pawning for drugs..*Sigh*and my sister is in recovery, happy, and has 2 children and married and goes to church.Shes in full recovery.But..She once was like my brother.

My mom won't face the fact that she thinks I'll end up like them.I just got a C on my report card, my very first official report card C.I'm a straight A student.My dad...I don't even know what he thinks.I don't come from good history of a family, my dad's side, no one went to college.He wants me to be the first one to go to college.My mom...Is the greatest person I know.

But....I feel so much pressure.How..How can I possibly prove to them I'm not like Rachel and Ryan (My bro and sis)? I'm not like them..I know I'm not.

It just hurts everytime My mom says "Thats what Rachel did.Your exactly like her."

Fail.
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Rebecca
You get where I'm coming from...Its awful. So much pressure..Its good to know I'm not the only one like this.
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Rebecca
My parents have dubbed me "the smart one"
which entails::

graduating college
supporting myself
moving out
buying my own car
payig all of my bills without help
payig off my tuition loans
supporting them
supporting my brother

The list goes on... My brother is a pot head and can't get a job to save his life and now my mom has cancer. We can't afford the medical bills... I have to keep going to school full time so I can get the financial aide then I have to keep working this dead end job I'm at and then I have to get a second job so I'm working more then full time on top of school full time bc my dad needs the help with the money.
And they sure as he'll can't rely on my brother. So I'm stuck... U til I graduate. And these are the last two semesters and the the hardest and most stressful and now I have to kill myself with work. :(

I'm sorry before I ranted I was trying to say I totally understand where your coming from. Parents expect so much from us. My mom is a bitch to top it off but she's still my mom and I'm still going to need her. And I can't just say "no I'm not going to get another job to help pay for bills so you can't get your treatments" ya know? And then my dad expects nothing but the bestfrom me at school so in turn I expect nothing but the best from my self at school. I had my first test of this semester yesterday and I got 2 wrong out of 35 which is a 94% and I was pissed at myself... Ya... I know it's ridiculous. But when so much is riding on ME... I can't help but put as much pressure on myself as they do on me.
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Olivez
Your welcome. xo
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safetynet
Thank you. Very much.
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Rebecca
I honestly don't know what parents want from their kids. The pressure they put on us is incredible. I'm never having kids I don't want anyone to go through this.

They really mess us up. I think though, if you believe in yourself, nothing else matters. You have to forget everything and do what you know you can do. We all have limitations, but nothing is more limiting than the ones you put on yourself. You aren't your brother or sister, you are you. You are a different person, with different thoughts. So don't ever compare yourself to them, no matter how much your parents do.
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