My Dearest, Matthew

Sometimes I ask myself why it was I who was born, and not you. You would've done much more good than me. At least, that's what I believe. As my older brother who has never been born, I sure miss you a lot. Even though we never met. The world was ready for you, but you weren't ready for the world. I understand that. But by the time we finally meet, I'm going to have a lot of stories to tell. I'm going to have my own written book. You better have a novel for me as well, Mattie.
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You are avoiding my questions, and hoping that I am going to be stupid enough to not point that out.

I will not be blunt and tell you that you're an idiot, instead I will be polite and give you the opportunity to try answering my questions and learning something about yourself instead. (Chances are what you will learn is that you're an idiot, but that in and of itself can be a catalyst for positive change.)
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@Cynic , I don't really like being the center of attention. I'm only here to express my feelings and life experiences. I think it is more important to be polite than blunt, because kindess makes more of a positive impact. And you said it yourself, "Go make some positive changes". Now, I know I cannot change you, but I merely ask that you refrain from being blunt.
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Okay maybe I should start by asking you a few questions so I can understand your point of view.


Are you fond of making up nonsense?
Do you only do it hoping for attention?
Why do you think it more important that I should couch things in a way that you will find "enjoyable" or "affirming" or whatever you think you want, instead of saying something that, if you had enough of a brain to focus on it instead of your "hurt feelings", would be of benefit to you?

Take your time to come up with actual answers and upon reflection you'll probably find them as interesting as I find the average pupating bug; probably more transformative than informative.
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@Cynic , I suppose we should both be more polite to each other then. Perhaps that would be better than going back and forth at each other like this. Or at least before it gets too out of hand.

Most people in the world lack self esteem, and I'm afraid I am one of those people. However, I am working on improving my self esteem, so I do not need you to point it out.

I did not say your advice was rubbish. I simply said it was a tad rude, and that you could have said it in a nicer way. Although "making positive changes" is good advice, you spoke too bluntly.
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None of those words you used, made me feel accomplished without the need to actually do something to deserve it. Therefore what you said is not "nice".

Didn't your mother ever tell you that if you can't say something nice that you should just stfu? You should now be nice to me.

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Do you realise how stupid that is to say? Heck, how about I point out that the majority of the stuff in the original post, wasn't nice to say about yourself?

This is the real world, kiddo. Sometimes the person who is not" "nice", is actually giving you the best advice.


BTW, spend more time on this part:

"Go make some positive changes and get on with your life instead of sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. "
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@Cynic , If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all. I do not mean any offense to it, but if you are meaning to offer some advice, then at least be polite about it. Keep this in mind for the future if you ever try to help people with their problems. Also, you shouldn't assume I'm not making positive changes already. We all need to rant from time to time, so spare me a moment. A simple paragraph. It's not too much to ask. I appreciate you taking the time to comment, however, even though you were a tad rude about it.
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Would you feel better if we all stand around and go boo hoo while offering you attention?

Go make some positive changes and get on with your life instead of sitting around feeling sorry for yourself.
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