Midnight Bitching of an Unwilling Housewife

You know what?? I don't like making your lunches. You're not five, and I'm not your mom. I don't think it's something sweet to do for my man. I only do it because you won't, and you'll just go out and spend money on fast food while there are rotting groceries in the fridge.

That's something else I don't like doing: the groceries. I don't have the luxury of driving, so I have to lug these bags to and fro, all around downtown, and up the 24 steep stairs to the apartment, often having to make two trips. And, the people in the stores drive me nuts. They are all psychic and know exactly when the perfect time would be to block me in an aisle or cut me off just as I'm about to speed past them.

Also, I don't like doing the dishes. You say that you actually like doing them, but you NEVER DO! I have to. Otherwise they just pile up, and I often let them just to see how you'll function without any. Doesn't seem to faze you.

I do NOT like cooking, either. All of that damn prep time, chopping crap and giving myself neck strain and searing eyes from onion slicing. It takes forever, and I don't like it. But, again, it's something else you won't do.

I will not vaccuum. The sound of it angers me, so I have to force you to do this while I take off. After which, I will wash the floors, but I don't like doing THAT either.

I don't like cleaning the apartment, only arranging it. But you can't arrange a messy apartment, so I can't win on that note, because it's usually ALWAYS messy.

I like doing the laundry, and that's only because the laundromat is a change of scenery and I get to have some downtime waiting for the clothes to be washed and dried. I also like folding clean laundry, but only the towels and undies. Not the fitted sheets (how does anyone properly fold them??) or shirts. And, I hate ironing, so I don't. This means our clothes are mostly wrinkled, and I don't care anymore.

I really don't like playing housewife. Really. I get nothing from it, not even a sense of accomplishment, nor pride of a sanitary environment, nor the peace of mind that we're not breaking the rules of our rental agreement. I try and make myself think that I possibly could like it, but it's an act and I can't keep it up for more than 10 minutes at a time.
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We used to both work full-time. I still ended up having to do it all because I worked less hours and was less tired when I got home. He works from 6am to 7:30pm and only has about an hour at home before he starts to pass out from exhaustion. I can't expect him to lift a finger when he's home from a long work day. He needs that time to himself to wind down and relax, before he has to go to bed and do it all over again the next day. He often works Saturdays as well, so the only time he can help with cleaning up is Sundays. But, even then, I don't want to bug him about it. He deserves his well-earned day of rest.

I've talked to him about it, but the fact is that we are both equally lazy when it come to chores. He just has a better excuse than me not to do them. It's only fair that it's my responsibility, seeing as he agreed to take over all finances and was so supportive when I wanted to quit my job and not work for awhile. He doesn't even care if I don't do any housework. He'll actually get disappointed if I've done housework instead of writing or creating music.

It sounds like I'm blaming him, or that this is a major problem for me. It's really just little annoyances that I've puffed up by the way I wrote them. I'm just being a brat and moaning on here about it, that's all. In real life I just buck up and shut up about it. Rationally, I know our circumstances (which I've put us in) makes it so that he can't help out, really.
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How about you hire a maid? Do you think that'll help the two of you? That's the easy way to go, but honestly you need to have a talk with this guy. Tell him to be a man and take some responsibility. You can't do everything on your own! Be straightforward with him. <3
Get a job.Have a serious talk with your man and tell him you need help in the house work as you want to work(job).
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gul
I think you need a vacation sweetheart, pack your bags and say you're heading out. Your man can be the one doing all the work. Best of luck <3
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invisible
tell your boyfriend/husband. No one likes housework, so you should split it.
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met206
You are a good person by doing these things despite your feelings towards them, but you need to get your partner[assuming thats who you are talking about]to sit down with you and have a talk. Tell him your feelings, but use 'I' statements, not 'you'[just to add]. He needs to know that you don't like to do everything. You may not like anything, but if you both split the work, then even if yoiu both hate it, at least you are both equally burdened with something you hate.

Talk. It works.

=]
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Aine