Is My Teacher A Pedophile?

Ok so here's some background info:

I'm 12 and in the sixth grade ( girl ).
My science teacher is a guy around 35.

So (I know this sounds like "omigod I'm so attractive" and stuff ) my science teacher, let's call him Mr M, is like the cool teacher. Everyone wants him because he's always cracking jokes and sort of humiliating people, but in ways that he has no idea about. Like he'll say, "Oh, Emily is so clumsy." When no one actually thinks Emily is clumsy. Everyone wants attention from him. There are all the annoying and popular girls always going up to him and like asking him stuff. He's been teaching there for a while.

So basically, he definitely has favorites and you can tell. But all my friends say that I'm his favorite and that he loves me which I don't think is true since he always ignores me during lessons. So I was sitting at my desk and he comes over and puts one arm next to be on the desk and leans over me, so he's like on top of me. I don't know if he felt me flinch or saw me blush because he goes, "It's ok, you're not in trouble." I really just wanted him to get off of me. He also touches me on the shoulder a bunch. He has this "point" system, and he always gives my group o a of points. He always finds excuses for me to come to lunch detention, like not signing in or something dumb. I was leaving his room after school and he put his hand on my lower back, almost touching my butt. He also wiggles his stupid eyebrows at me all the time. When his hamster bit my and drew blood, he said, "Better get that cleaned up before people think I did that to you" and twice he's "accidentally" touched my thigh underneath my skirt. He's also offered to button up two of the buttons on my blouse that were undone. I said no and had my friend do it for me. (They were on the back)

Please help! I do t want to ruin his life if he isn't a pedophile but I also don't want it to keep happening! I have a close teacher that I could tell if I really have to.
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anonymous user
Here's the thing -- if you don't want to ruin his life, but do want him to stop -- recognize that you have the power here.

If you go to your parents, principal, or the police, and say "This guy is touching me in ways I don't want to be touched, and he's imposing on me. I don't want to ruin his life, but I do want it to stop." .there's a good chance someone will believe you, and they might mess up his life as well. But that's leverage. You don't have to bargain with him, beg, or appeal.

Next time he does it, tell him clearly "Don't do that. I don't care what you think, I don't want it. I also don't want to ruin your life. .but all I have to do to make it stop is be honest to others about it. So stop."

Then, don't use that power for anything else. Just use it to protect yourself. Don't hurt him needlessly, don't accept gifts from him. If you can find someone that you can trust and that won't freak out, confide in them. Gain allies, and don't abuse the power you have, and you'll probably end up on the winning end of this conflict.

Your concern for his well being is admirable, but you also need to defend yourself. And I know it's hard -- you probably hate that there's a conflict in the first place. But that's the nature of conflict. Just do your best to win without being cruel unless it's necessary.
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flipper
Yes. This constitutes as sexual harrassment. Your teacher is a pedophile. He shouldn't be teaching. If not you, he will hurt some other kid. And yes you are children.

Consent cannot be given by anyone under 16 years old, especially to an adult over 18 legally. Unless it is with someone 3 years older or younger than you. Thats the law.

In this dynamic, this man knows he has power. He can give you detention, he can take off marks. and silence is what he's counting on from you. Chances are he picked you because you're nice, you're probably the type to keep your mouth shut. He's got people in your grade charmed so they'll just brush off your worries and say, "Oh he'd never mean anything by it. It's no big deal". Or worse, some girls might say,"you're so lucky!" The man is playing a sick game. People are so disgusting.

When a person becomes a teacher, they are well aware of the power dynamics between an adult and child, a teacher and a child, etc. The world is so messed up.

If you still need convicing, think about it this way, have any of your female teachers done any of those things to you?
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safetynetxo
You should go talk to your head teachers because that is so not okay.what
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Caydanlola
Do what you feel is right. Always contact someone if you think you're going to be hurt or raped by this man. As a fellow sixth grader, I think you should tell the principle of the school and get some. solid evidence. Don't tell your friends. Tell someone who can help.

Best wishes to you, my friend.