Why can't my libido take a break with my desire for romantic love? It'd make things so much easier....

I'm still contemplating having a threesome, because with where things are at now, I don't see a better option.Not from my perspective anyway, and I feel like it'd make more sense to let them decide if they're up for it.This would be me and my best friend an his boyfriend..I don't even know if the boyfriend is bi or fully gay.=/ But can't hurt to ask, I suppose.