I'm Lesbian , My Dad Hates Homosexuals

So I am lesbian. and I'm sick of hiding it but I have no choice because anytime the topic of homosexuals comes up my dad goes on and on and on about how he hates gay people and I try telling him that is not a choice and he tells me it is in fact a choice and a "very f*cked up choice" and I thought about telling my stepmom but she'll think it's a joke and laugh in my face but i have a girlfriend and I'm afraid my dads gonna see our texts. he takes my phone at random times and goes through it. and Im just not sure if I should tell him and have him hate my guts, or let him possibly find out by going through my phone?
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anonymous user
Good news!

He probably already hates you. And you're probably not even a lesbian.
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Cynic
You need to tell him, maybe if a loved one of his is gay he might stop hating them.
My brother told he dad he was gay, and my dad hates gays but once my brother told him he started being more open and more respecting towards them, and now he doesnt hate gays
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Raquel0060
Homosexuality is a choice. Heterosexuality is also a choice. Sexual preference isn't hardwired into you from birth, the same way the other things you enjoy aren't predetermined. You discover different things and learn whether or not you like them.

More to the point of your entry though, I think you should tell him. Better to get it over with and take his reaction as it may come, rather than to spend your life worrying and stressing over "What if he finds out?"

I wouldn't worry though, honestly. Most of the time when a man says he's against homosexuality, that really means he's against MALE homosexuality, which is likely due to insecurity about his masculinity or the fear of being sexually assaulted in the same way heterosexual men often assault women.
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