Brunch With Jamie

That was really awkward. I'm sorry to have disappointed you, I could tell I did, so I overcompensated. Whatever. It cost me, but my conscious is sorta clear, now. I know how to fix this from happening again.

But, you know. . .

It does suck that unless they think they're going to get laid, guys don't want to get to know me or spend time with me.

I was so uncomfortable and I could tell he was, too. I hated every second of it. But, I don't ever have to do it again, and it's over now. Just so icky. Icky flicky. The residuals of Wednesday's open night fiasco. But, the alternative was to let him think that this was a date and pretend that I was interested in him that way.
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Mopy
You know, I bothered to read because I asked specific questions and expected them to be answered.

Guess you can't even do that right.

That, by itself probably explains a lot. Think about it.
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Cynic
"My happiness isn't dependent on being with someone."

I don't want to presume to know who you are based on your online persona, but from a casual glancing of your posts, you do seem to be preoccupied with relationships a fair share of the time. Which is completely normal, but by refusing to acknowledge that, you seem to be convinced that you can be happy on your lonesome. And if that were true, you wouldn't expend so much mental and emotional distress surrounding the topic of men.

As far as you having bad experiences along the way (in your "non-picky" years), try to accept the fact that people grow in time, and most (young) people develop and become something else. After all, we all have experiences in life that change us and allow us to grow and mature (though, for me, that seems to be becoming more jaded and angry -- in order to protect myself), but some people do actually change for the better. So it might be worth letting your guard down, from time to time.

While I still stand by my earlier statements that men only care about sex and women only care about money (it's a blanket statement, but applies 99% of the time), I do think it's still possible to be a good person in spite of it. And once you attain sex and money, it's even easier to become charitable. . .because you're already happy with your life and you want to spread the joy. And especially when you're older* and more secure, those things matter a whole lot less, so it's easier to see past all the external and material things and actually look at the person within.

*Also, consider the fact that the longer you wait, the more prone you are to "settling" when options become limited.
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mopyisacunt
Wait a sec! LOL! My happiness isn't dependent on being with someone. I already was happy in love for nearly a decade and a half. But, not being picky in the first place ended causing me massive upset, grief, and bereavement beyond anything that I could have ever known. That kind of unhappiness is nothing I will ever go through EVER again, so dang right that I'm gonna be picky (not really picky, just specific) as I please, because I'm currently learning how to be truly happy living single potentially forever. So, no matter what, I'm paving a path that will make me happy with or without that love or partner thing. I'm not there yet, of course, the transition takes time, but I will be.

Ever finding someone suitable would be a very ideal addition to my life, but unhappiness would be to settle for less than the right match for me. Money and sex are superficial as eff, and I'm not going to give chances to anyone who shows himself to be that. See how happy you'll be when you're finally able to land the woman you really want to bang, then fall in love because of Miss. Pretty Freepuss, and down the road, eventually discover how happy you truly are because you didn't take the time to discover that she's the wrong one for you before you decided to fall in love with her and are then stuck with her and a depleted bank account.
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Mopy
You mean you really care what I think, or you're just putting me on?

Time is money. There is no time to waste on women who aren't willing, in the least. Eff them. They can have their perfect little lives with their perfect specimen. The beautiful ones can afford to wait for their 'prince' to come -- I am certainly not that. I am bottom of the barrel. Maybe you, Cynic, are blessed with good looks, wealth or whatnot, and can have your pick of the litter; I do not. I already know Mopy is picky AF, and the more she waits, the less her chances for happiness become (we all have an expiration date, and if you think there is anything more to you than appearance, see how easy it is to find someone when you're old).

Anyway, the "men and women can't be friends" debate is an old one. Just see When Harry Met Sally for comic reference. Spoiler alert: At the end, they get together. Maybe when one is secure in their own personal relationships, it would be possible to befriend the opposite gender; but if one is single and looking, it makes it difficult to maintain any kind of platonic relationship without crossing boundaries or else ending up in the "friend zone" -- which no willing male wants to be put in. I guess that's inherently creepy to always be 'on the prowl,' but what can I say. . . we're all, at our very basis, animals with animal urges.

Some people can admit that to themselves, and some people try to maintain the illusion that they're 'civilized' and above the common mentality. But strip all of the pretenses away and you're just as disgusting as the rest of us.
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mopyisacunt
I've never understood why people feel the need to rush things. If a lady is not interested at any given time, that's fine. Either she'll come around, or she won't.

What makes guys so desperate that they feel like they have to get it immediately from the first person to walk past? Is it that they just aren't getting any? Or that they feel that they haven't had enough? How is it that they don't realise that being seen to be 'creepy' is not going to enhance their chances of getting some?

Come on troll, you are in a position to answer the questions, mopy is female and I haven't had much experience in being a creep, or being desperate. Now's your time to shine.
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Cynic
"Keep telling yourself whatever you need to tell yourself."

Same back to ya.
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Mopy
Keep telling yourself whatever you need to tell yourself.

There's a reason why the wealthy and the attractive are at the top. Everyone else has to fend for themselves.

And unicorns don't exist. They're just horses in disguise.
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mopyisacunt
Okay, so again, no listening to you, and be the decent person that I am, instead. Good! :)

Because, I'm a woman, and I don't care about money. So, it's not a universal truth. And, if I exist, then what must also exist is that not all men only care about sex.

Next up: Unicorns and Where to Find Them
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Mopy
"I suppose I won't bother with any man again, except to start swindling money out of them"

That's what all women do anyway. That's why so many women whore themselves out for money. It cuts through all the red tape.

All men care about is sex and all women care about is money. Universal truths. There is no such thing as a good person or a "nice guy". Everyone is selfish and other people are just a means to an end. The sooner we embrace that, the sooner we can use it to our advantage.

Edit: I just realized I'm even more of a cynic than Cynic.
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mopyisacunt
If that's a universal truth, then I suppose I won't bother with any man again, except to start swindling money out of them for being superficial pieces of human hard-on trash. You'll all pay up if you think you're going to get sex, and I'm apparently really good at making guys think they're going to get it. But, you'll never get the sex, again, and I'm going to rob the eff out of you.

Nice guys or no, all the same, huh? Just that the nice guys are easier.

Do I have it right?
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Mopy
"It does suck that unless they think they're going to get laid, guys don't want to get to know me or spend time with me."

It's a waste of time that could be better spent trying to get to know/spending time with someone they could be having sex with.

That goes for all women, not just you. There's no point having a platonic female friend you're attracted to. You're just asking for blue balls.
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