Age difference and dating. opinions needed.

The situation is this.19 year old and a 16 year old girl.The 16 year old wants to go out with the 19 year old.
I am the 19 year old in this situation.I feel mildly like a jerk for turning her down based on age, but I feel like a creep dating a 16 year old.
So to clarify, I'm not dating her.I merely wish to hear other people's opinions.

Opinions?
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anonymous user
Wow, I totally didn't expect this much of a response.
Yes, in my state it is NOT illegal to date a minor however, people, friends mainly, will bring up the debate of how the law is worded.
The law is worded so that it sounds like if you're 18 and dating a 16 year old it's okay, but any age older is not. That's not the truth.

Also, I'm just throwing it out there. The age of consent in Massachusetts is 16, but there is also a preexisting law that says it's illegal to have sex until you are either 18 or married. Funny how backwards that is.
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liveitup....It is NOT illegal to DATE a 16 year old girl/boy if you are an adult.

An adult can date a 5 year old with the parents permission if he/she wanted to, and the law can't do a damn thing about it if they are not doing anything sexual.

Besides......you don't know where this guy lives. So, if they both happen to have sex in let's just say, Ohio...no one can do anything since the age of consent there is 16.

I know this because I've been dating older men for like ever. So, of course I read up on laws to stay legal.
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Toxxic
Dude she's 16, its ILLEGAL. I totally understand though, I feel weird when I'm getting along really well with freshmen girls and they're like 18-19...I want to get their number, but I feel like a creep too.

My friend did date a 17 year old when he was 21 so I don't really judge.

But I think you gotta turn her down, if it makes you feel weird, it probably does not bode well for a real relationship. And if you're just looking for sex...well that probably doesn't look too good either...
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liveitup
hahaha....wow...it looks like all the 16 yr olds are dating 19-20 year olds on here.....weird :P
My boyfriend and I never even discuss our different race or age.....it's just....shouldn't matter. Yeah, people stare....but it's none of their business. We aren't hurting anyone.
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Toxxic
my boyfriend is 20 and im 16! he goes to uni and i still have another year left at high school...seriously, he was in the same place as you at first and didnt want to hurt me etc..
but we are so great together and people won't give you dirty looks coz as long as she looks around your age- noone will care! when i hang out with my guy, he doesn't feel like he is any older than me...and the age gap does disappear after a while (think 20 and 23, 21 and 24) seems perfect, right?:)
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UsakoDumpling
I once knew a gay interracial couple with a 15 year age difference......just saying....do you get my drift?
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Toxxic
Oh wow...I'm 16 and with a 19 year old.
It all depends where you live. In some states, the sexual age of consent is 16.
I live in California and the age of consent is 18.
It is NOT illegal to DATE someone older/younger than you....it is ONLY illegal when there is sexual contact made.

As long as you 2 remain RESPONSIBLE and SMART and most definitely MATURE, then I see no problem in it.

You won't be a creep.....But it seems like you care tooo much about what other people would think about your relationship...so I would recommend you don't date her at all. Age doesn't matter if you are with someone.

I guess it matters to you. They are your own morals, so if you want to abide by them, then that is your own doing, and there's nothing wrong with that.

I am Black, and my fiancé is White. We get mean and evil stares and treated harshly most of the time, but guess what????.........IT DOESN'T MATTER. We don't care because everyone else is NOT in OUR relationship. You don't date people to impress others. So, it really shouldn't matter.

So think about that. To say that you won't DATE someone because of their age is the same thing to me as someone saying that they won't date me because of my race.


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Toxxic
It depends on her maturity level and like it may seem weird now, but the older you both get the less of a gap there will be. My parents are separated by five years and it is just fine. I would say wait date her. I mean you might get dirty looks, but you will know that there isn't anything bad about it. I mean if you really have feelings for her.
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born2bperfect
I'm 16 and I'm dating a 19 year old. It may feel weird at first but then you won't even notice the difference!
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omfgfmllmao
I THINK U SHOULD DATE HER
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KissMeGoodnight
well I agree 3 years is not a big deal but I think that since you are in college (or of that age to be) and she is still in high school thing are totally different. those are two different worlds and two totally different maturity levels. sorry but I say no or wait till later. and if you cant do either of those wait till summer and test it. when your home and shes not in school.
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dressagegirl
As you get older the 3 years matter less and less, but you should really think of the legal ramifications and avoid a situation that could seriously and negatively impact your life.

(I presume you are in the states). If so, she is still a minor and you are an adult. If her parents chose to they could bring a suit against you that would stick with you forever.

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osc
i don't think that age should matter. people might talk because of the fact that she's a minor, but i don't really think it's that bad. 3 years is not a big difference. anyways, age is nothing but a number.
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pugluver
I say it's a no...but that's just my opinion. It all depends on your intensions and her maturity level.
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